Since I move around a lot, I think it has gotten easier to take change head-0n. Having said that, it can still be a challenge. In the past 2 years, I’ve lived in London for 2 months, Iowa City for 6 months, Australia for 4 months, Cincinnati for 6 months, and Boston for 6 months. You’d think any transition would be easy after that. The move from Boston to Cincinnati has been more difficult than I thought it would be. There are a few different reasons for this:
1) The movers have been absolutely horrible. They picked up my stuff in Boston on July 27th. They had told me that they’d deliver it on August 8th, which is still a decent amount of time for a move. I called them on Friday to make sure they were going to be coming on the 8th, and they told me it’s been delayed until August 13th. This means it will take over 2 1/2 weeks to get everything from Boston to Cincinnati. For a moving company, this is unreasonable. Having no bed and sleeping on the couch for a few weeks doesn’t make me feel at home.
2) Work has already been crazy. I started during the week of close, so the long hours meant that I didn’t have much free time during the week. This means that I’d get up, go to work, come home, eat, read, then go to bed. This makes it tough since my last job was much more laid back and demanded less hours.
3) Cincinnati is no Boston. There is so much to do in Boston and the surrounding area, that I had no problem finding anything to do for a day or a weekend. This morning, I woke up and ready to get out of the apartment. I had a few errands to run, and after I finished that I was thinking of what to do for fun the rest of the day. There wasn’t one thing that came to mind that I really wanted to do. I really had to think about it before deciding on going to a cafe to read. I liked everything about Boston, so on any day I had free I could just go walk around the city and really enjoy it even if I had seen it 10 times before. I have a very different feeling here in Cincinnati.
I quickly realized this week that, because of the change, I am going to have to adjust my hobbies to stay happy. My first 6 months in Cincinnati was one of the worst spans I’ve had with trying to adjust to working full time, generally not liking my job, having a very small social network, and having very few hobbies. I will not fall into the same life I had then.
In Boston, I realized that what I need to stay happy is a few different groups of friends, a few hobbies that I can do regularly, and having a weekly event. My social groups in Boston were work (mostly engineers), my softball team, and friends I had met through volunteering. The weekly event I had was the softball league, and my hobbies included softball, reading, volunteering, and traveling/sightseeing.
Here in Cincinnati, I need to establish a few different social groups. With all the young people in finance here, I immediately have a large group with them. I have a few friends that go to UC or are natives of Cincinnati. I’m trying meet people through the Couchsurfing community, and I’m going to be volunteering more which will be another group.
Since I won’t be traveling/sightseeing as much, I’ve realized that I need a hobby or two to fill that time. Traveling was what I spent most of my weekends doing, so I cannot allow myself to let my weekends slip away doing nothing. I’ve decided that I’m going to step up my volunteering and reading, and I’m going to pick up biking. As for the weekly event, I’m still searching around for something that will fit my schedule. I’ve considered joining a soccer team, but that is something I haven’t decided on yet.
If there is something I’ve learned through my studies and work, it’s that adjusting to change is the key to making it. What I’ve done in the past 6 months won’t keep me happy through the next 6 months. Change is always exciting, but it’s important to adapt rather than try to keep similar habits in a different environment!